Jul 26, 2015

33 The Wisdom of Confiding in Others (Revisiting a post/introspection)

Blessings all. Today I find myself doing a lot of introspection and  in so doing I am revising this post first published JAN.25.2012 as it touches on many of the things I am ruminating about.
GET PERMISSION, DO NOT ASSUME
Before you confide in someone ask the person if they are willing to keep your confidence. Now I realize that some of you may bark at the idea of asking someone’s permission in a conversation before you disclose your concerns/conflict etc., and may go so far as to think that it is ludicrous and obscene even, it is not.
I cannot tell you the amount of times I have heard,overheard, made privy to people’s complaint about their “friends”, “families”coming to them with their problems and how they feel burdened and oppressed by it. It is the reason some of you may have and continue to experience the friends/family members who are always too busy, never picks up the phone,sporadically return calls or have an endless slew of excuses why they couldn’t be there for you.
I am not saying do not share or you should not share, in fact it is a healthy thing to share as no one person is an Island. I am saying do not assume face to facethe person(s) with whom you would like to disclose with is willing to listen and or keep your confidence. Sharing is great, it helps to clarify and solidify things. It also lets you know that you are not alone in the world and the problem that you may think is unique to you may be more common than you realize. You absolutely should not suffer in silence, after all as I have stated before, no one “man” (universal term) is an island. You simply must choose your confidant wisely and again, ask, do not assume.
Example: (one scenario of asking)
Rhapsody:   “Hey Jane, how are you doing?”
Jane:           “I am doing great; you however don’t look so great, are you alright?”
Rhapsody:  “Truthfully no, I need to speak with someone about something that is troubling me, I could do with another perspective, will you be willing to keep my confidence, and this must stay strictly between you and I. It is ok if you don’t want to I will not be offended in fact I’d appreciate the candour”.
Something like that, now you don’t have to use those exact words, after all you are not me, just put your linguistic personality spin on it, as long as you remember to ask and not assume. You don’t want to end up as somebody’s casual dinner conversation. Now lets be clear, asking won’t guarantee that the person or persons you choose to confide in won’t betray your trust. It simply establishes from the beginning between you and the party/parties involved the boundaries set out in the conversation to which there was an agreement.
A couple of the reasons for asking:
1.    Respecting the person’s right not to be involuntarily co-opted into keeping your secret.There is a responsibility in consenting to be someone’s confidant that may clash with their personal relationship(s).
o  How you ask, simple, some husbands and wives, partners etc., have rules that govern their relationship that best works for them that you may not be privy too and one of those rules maybe full disclosure of everything said outside of both of them, even on best friends confiding their secrets, hence what you say to he or she will be discussed with the spouse/partner. If you do not have a problem with that then go for it. If you do have issues with it then you may want to choose someone else to confide in.
2.    Not taking the person or persons trust, time and willingness to listen to you for granted.
In the end, if confidences are betrayed, they'll be no question as to intent. Just as one should ask before disclosing, if the confidant is unable to help (if it is a solution based problem) and has a source that may have some answers, then that confidant must come back to you and ask for your permission to disclose in order to find a solution. If you in turn say no then it stays between you.
 
Mindfulness Thought
Be mindful that you treat every relationship in your life like a precious commodity and not take any of it for granted and give respect where respect is due.
D.S.B Rhapsody ©All Rights Reserved

Jul 19, 2015

17 Beauty in truth

“There is beauty in truth, even if it's painful. Those who lie, twist life so that it looks tasty to the lazy, brilliant to the ignorant, and powerful to the weak. But lies only strengthen our defects. They don't teach anything, help anything, fix anything or cure anything. Nor do they develop one's character, one's mind, one's heart or one's soul.” 
 
José N. Harris

Jul 14, 2015

6 Be Careful What You Teach Yourself

If you teach yourself

To fool yourself

Then eventually it will be hard for to believe in yourself

Be careful of the habits you cultivate.

D.S.B.S.Rhapsody©All rights reserved.

Jul 8, 2015

16 The Gift of Creating

Everyone of us has a gift to create things. I love the gifts that God has endowed me with. I am thankful everyday. One such gift is the skill to create my own earrings. It’s the little things that impacts. What gifts are you blessed with?

10 mm Adventurine  set in sterling silve with swaroski crystals10 mm Adventurine set in sterling silver with Swarovski crystals

Mixed Metals, stainless steel with sterling silver and turgoise glass beads

Mixed Metals, stainless steel with sterling silver and turquoise glass beads

Jun 23, 2015

18 Toilet Restaurant–Would You Eat Out of A Toilet?

Modern toilet taipei

The Modern Toilet is a three story bathroom theme restaurant in Taipei Taiwan. Yes I wrote toilet. I was watching a show, THE TOP MOST WEIRDEST RESTAURANTS where they feature strange and unusual   restaurants across the world. This one had my mouth gaping in amazement.

The seats are actual toilets, the tables are bathtubs and the drinking cups are bedpans and urinals. Food is served in mini toilets and the ice-cream is swirled to resemble loads of shit served in pee basin. All I could say watching the expose unfold was wow that is seriously thinking outside the box.

Inside Modern toiletSharing the new and strange….

The next day I shared info on “The Modern Toilet” with my eldest daughter as we often discuss unusual happenings and her, first she stared at me as if I were an alien beamed down from out of space with 3 heads and 15 eyeballs. She then ICECREAMproceeded to grunt inaudibly between clearly decipherable “intelligent” descriptive such as, “eewww,” “yuck,” “gross.” When I presented her with photographic proof of the food delivered in bathroom themed utensils (urinals, bedpans, pee basins, toilets) and poo shaped ice cream her most communicative expletive delivery came in the form of “Am done!” as she showed me her back and walked away saying, “disgusting.”

I guess it’s safe to say she’s not a fan (and I thought she was the adventurous type) what say you? Would you dine in this restaurant if you are in Taipei Taiwan and sit on toilet bowls and eat your foods out of mini toilets and drink out of urinals?

food in toilet bowlsurinal cupsyellow toilet food bowl

 


Credit Acknowledgement:

Since I’ve never been to this restaurant I had to source all my pictures from the internet, none of these photos are mine. Poo ice-cream from http://wierdestrestaurants.blogspot.ca/, urinal cup and restaurant sign from http://ontrip.dk/modern-toilet-restaurant-taipei-taiwan%e2%80%8f/, yellow toilet bowl from http://www.nsmbl.nl/, inside Modern Toilet from vsesosedi.blogspot.com

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