Friday, September 5, 2014

18 Be Humble, Be Thankful, Be Still

SAM_5235When you’ve had a rough day

And you are feeling down

Because it feels like nothing has gone right,

That whatever could go wrong has gone wrong.SAM_5065

Be still.

Look up,

Let go….

And breathe,

Take a breath,

Take two,

Let go….

Accept the things you cannot change (you don’t haveclouds at falling light to like it)

Just accept,

Be humble,

Be thankful,

For each breath

For the ability to see (even to bitch and mourn and complain)

SAM_5222For the right here,

For the right now,

For this moment of stillness.

Take the time to …

Enjoy it

To take in the kaleidoscope of Moonlight & Artificial light in Choruscolors above you (yes, even the gray)

The array of clouds,

The marvel of…

The sunlight,

The moonlight,

The starlight

All greeting you unprejudicely

Embracing you blazing sunset (3)with open arms,

No judgments

No condemnation

Just peace ….

Just Acceptance


Take it all in

Capture the jewelled moment

And know

You are more that a bad Cloudy Day in Junemoment

You are more than the sum total of bad moments

You are blessed,

 in spite of all that has happened

you are, a blessing

And let it all be a reminder that….

Even on the worst days

The dark days,

The murky days,

The turbulent days,

Beauty can be found,

And it surrounds.



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Monday, September 1, 2014

6 Be open, Be flexible, Be prepared


Life is unpredictable, it is beautiful, it is messy and it can rock your world for the better or for the worst on any given day without your consent.

It is for that reason I realize my grandmother use to say, “Listen here girl”..."Do not put all your eggs in one basket."

In other words, be open... exploring other possibilities creating alternatives understanding that there are different paths to attaining the same goal(s) recognizing opportunities being willing to do the work to achieve the goals utilizing opportunities enabling continual growth, inspiration, motivation and satisfaction being flexible (nothing is guaranteed, the wise learn how to flex, shift and accommodate change)

…that you are designed to more than one purpose

... Hopeful not entitled,

... Joyful not mournful,

...Enjoy life


 …Manage your expectations

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Thursday, August 28, 2014


The great bubble bursting adventure

catching bubbles

Adults can learn so much from children. See the joy my God sons (brothers, 5 and 18 months) get out of trying to catch bubbles. Without a care in the world they are completely absorbed in the adventure of bursting bubbles.

Saturday, August 16, 2014


Don't ask if you cannot handle the truth.
Often times we say we want the truth but are unprepared and ill equipped to deal with the consequences of truth revealed.
Unless you are really willing to truly listen and hear the truth as it stands, not as would like it to be, framed specifically to seat you comfortably but as it IS, raw, unencumbered by pretty words sugar coated to spear your feelings, do not ask for honesty.
Truth is truth, no matter how you flip it, or script it, it is unchanging.
If you ask for the truth, be prepared to deal with the reality knowing brings.

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Tuesday, August 5, 2014


“Life is filled with many unexpected turns thus we must adapt and cultivate some of the characteristics of the willow tree so that we not only survive but thrive gracefully.D.S.B.S Rhapsody


Have you ever noticed how a sunset always manages to look beautiful no matter the weather?


Have a blessed and joy filled week.

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Saturday, July 26, 2014

8 HAIR LOSS - Weaves & Braids

Today I visited a website called and found this very interesting article on weaves and braids (W&B). It states that W&B contribute to permanent hair loss among women of African lineage.

According to website, of the 362 participants in the study conducted, over a ¼ had hair loss on the top of their scalp and 59% of those women, had signs of central centrifugal cicatricial alopecia (CCCA), baldness that begins at the crown of the head and leads to scarring.

It’s a known fact among people of African lineage no matter where in the world they hail from that we do all manner of things to our hair, from hot combing (pressing), to relaxing (permanently straightening) to putting in extensions (single braids/cornrows), weaves (sew in weaves or glued in tracks) to wearing wigs. It’s a ritual that at times can be a brutal experience and brutalizing to our hair.

I remember my mother pressing my hair when I was a child and mammy would say, “don’t move or you will get burn,” and I would sit stiffly dreading “the burn,” praying. I could feel the heat from the iron comb (hot comb) at the nape of my neck, forehead and ears. My mother would blow on the heated comb which she took off the stove to redirect the smothering heat away from those vulnerable areas to ensure I didn’t burn. I could smell my hair frying; hear the sizzling sound of hair as it went from tight curl to bone straight. My mom was good I rarely got burn but on those rear occasions when I did, Lord have mercy I would squeal like a pig to the slaughter. Sometimes I had friends who would show up to school/church/party with hair loss where the iron was too hot and it just took that part of the hair off completely or burnt marks around the nape of the head, forehead and ears and we would all chorus, “You moved your head.”

I am a naturalista (have natural hair) although I must confess to perming (which damaged my hair terribly), using extensions for single braids or cornrows which I did myself so it was not done tightly. One day, I went with my fast self and had someone put in extensions cornrow style for me, because I wanted a particular fancy do. It looked so good but holy mother of God, it was mad tight. I couldn’t smile or blink my eyes. I vacillated between ‘ooh it look so good to father Jesus help me I can’t bend my head the pain was so intense’ as the back would pull as if someone was trying to deliberately tear my hair right out of my skull. I took all that I could take, by the time I reached home I couldn’t stand it anymore and I sat down and removed every single one. I was in too much pain. I had bumps around the nape of my head and around my ears it was so tight (I do not ascribe to the “beauty is pain” ethos, not this sistah). I guess that’s the website are referring to, the excessive tightness that is akin to murder on the scalp and then it is left in for months!  

“Black women often maintain these styles for long periods of time, and the stress they exert on the scalp can lead to the development of pus-filled bumps, and “Over time, these bumps can develop bacteria” that can lead to scarring.”

So ladies (and gents), be mindful and careful about styling your hair. Be kind to your scalp and it would be kind to you by letting you keep your hair! I know many of you love your weaves and braids but you got to give your hair a break from even that sometimes. Why not rock some wraps or if you can afford it wigs, the kind you can just pull on but please, please, please, comb your hair before dawning wigs just in case it comes off.

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