Jun 6, 2017

18 Betrayal services many purposes

freedomWhen we are first betrayed by ones we trusted we are consumed with hurt followed quickly by self-recrimination blaming ourselves for our poor choice, for not seeing or paying attention to the signs that signaled this person or persons are not trust worthy. It impacts our trust not only in others, it also impact our trust in ourselves and doubt comes in and seats itself comfortably in the psyche. Thus we become afraid, afraid to say too much, afraid to invest too much and afraid of getting too close so much so that we obscure or just plain forget the lessons betrayal brought with it. While we should indeed exercise more caution and mindfulness we should not forget the lessons. Lessons like paying attention to the signs that tell us when we are being lied to, the warnings when there “slip of the tongue” incidences indicate that you should not lay down your confidences even if you are feeling burden and need someone to confide in (find a therapist) or when we get so caught up in our “need” that we blind ourselves to the what IS in preference of “what could be” in other words allowing ourselves to get lost in our desires and needs so much so at times that we render ourselves deaf, dumb and (partner the bluntness), stupid.

MY POINT:

The next time you experience a betrayal pay attention to the lessons. Sure, feel hurt and all that comes with it, just don’t get lost in it as the betrayal serves mulitiple purposes. It serves as a guide to you, on your behalf informing you on what to do, what not to do and when best to exercise mindfulness. Most of all it is a lesson that demands that we trust ourselves and our core instincts when it is screaming up through our being and not deliberately side stepping, denying, ignoring and indulging in self-manipulative practices that render us into obtuse blindness.

MINDFULNESS CAVEAT

Do not allow past poor decisions, failures, hurts and disappointments cause you to abandon yourself and submit your will to those that will trample upon it.

UNDERSTAND:

The Blessed Divine granted you, yes YOU the privilege of free will and choice do not surrender it to anyone and don’t just give it away. The price for such lack of self-care is very high.

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18 comments:

  1. Thank you for this reminder. I haven't experienced betrayal lately and hope it stays away for awhile longer. :-)

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    1. blessings.....
      I hope it never visits you again.

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  2. This is really speaking to me. You have no idea how much it hit home. Thank you

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    1. blessings my sistah. I am glad it spoke to you.
      I hope it provided you with that which you required

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  3. I agree we need to trust again but being more careful not to rush in without thought.

    For me the person that betrayed me gave no signs at all... it's the reason it's taken me so long to even trust myself again. Sometimes you just have to move on... thoughtful and well written words xox ♡

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    1. hmmmmmm, sometimes its like that, a rude awakening that shakes you to the CORE of your being. Yet as brutal as it comes you have to find it within yourself to be like air and rise again.

      thanks

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  4. in everything there is a lesson to be learned...even betrayal.

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    1. Absolutely.
      May we learn the lesson when it comes so we may arm ourselves with discernment so when it rares its head again we may recognize it and choose differently.

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  5. Wow! These are some awesome words of wisdom, and they speak volumes. You go, girl! Hugs...RO

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  6. Great post . I know how it feels

    http://inthebothv.blogspot.ae/?m=1

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    1. Thank you, unfortunately I think we all have a communal understanding of such.

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  7. This is gonna sound like a cliche but I am gonna say it anyway. I needed to 'hear' this. I needed the reminder. Thank you.

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    1. Blessings Cindy, we all need reminders at some point or another. Glad I can serve

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  8. Great lessons to live by, your thoughts are everything and so much more. We live and learn daily and its the way we react to things that really stand out at the end of the day. Thanks for sharing and peace to you!

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    1. Blessings and thank you.
      I think our greatest challenges resonates right in those teachable learnable moments.

      You are most welcome

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